Shaun from Christchurch

Everything was getting on top of me, work, life!
Nigel Murray has helped me through what seemed to be an impossible task, I was so overwhelmed I did not know where to turn.  I must say it was a privilege to go through this journey with Nigel, addressing my many complex issues. Each session achieved more than I could have possibly imagined, although I was challenged this was done in the most supportive and creative way whilst learning more about myself and tools to constantly influence my own life for the better.
With his superb counselling and life coaching skills we have been able to open all the doors with ease to show me the way through and explore with confidence, I didn’t expect that we would open every door and end up on a sunny beach in the Bahamas! .
I felt totally comfortable with Nigel and supported every step of the way, I can only recommend anyone who is struggling to see Nigel. Hence why I felt I should share my experience. Thanks again Nigel.
– Shaun from Christchurch

Matt, Solihull

Anxiety was getting the better if me…..

I am forever grateful to Nigel for helping me face up to my anxieties.

He showed me how to understand and view my thoughts and feelings and instilled the belief that I am in control of myself. I now feel free and confident to be whoever I want to be

Thanks Nigel

Amy. S. Bournemouth

I have been coping very well. I am SO PROUD of myself over the last few weeks. I have come a long way and i feel very positive about myself and about my life. I want to continue finding out who i am as a person and continue making confident positive changes, challenging myself along the way.

I honestly can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for me. Coming to see you has really changed my life.

Thank you,

Amy S

James, Dorset UK.

Re-connecting with loved one

After working through sessions with Nigel I began to realise that my emotional side and
relationship with my father felt very disconnected. I saw actions in him I knew I did not
want my children and family in many years to come to experience. As a result of this I
felt I had a stronger relationship with one parent than the other which is not what I
I value and look up to both of my parents and wanted to have equally strong
relationships with both of them. When I approached Nigel with this situation, he
challenged me to talk openly with my Dad about how I felt and our relationship. My
initial reaction to his advice made me feel uncomfortable and I was worried about
approaching my Dad as it felt unnatural and was not something I was used to. After
finally gaining the courage to talk to him, I realised how much self-doubt I had and how
I wrongly assumed specific actions and the body language of my father made it harder
to approach him with certain things.

I felt such a massive relief, I didn’t realise how such an simple conversation with my
father could improve our relationship. Nigel’s approach and suggestions were clear
and tailored to steps that I felt comfortable taking. He challenged me at the right times
to help with the situation but always made me feel like I had the control. Things now
are so much easier and I can freely talk with my father about any issues or situations
that I want to discuss. If anyone reading this is seeking to improve a relationship with a
loved one, be it, family or a partner then I recommend 4u2empower.

James, Bournemouth.

During the pandemic COVID-19, my relationship with my girlfriend was impacted to a
large extent. As a result of this, I had to take on a massive adjustment being so far
away from my partner and balancing work and my time with her via FaceTime and
phone calls. Without the physical presence and ability to read her body language as if
we were having a conversation in person made it harder to address issues. As I was
used to spending so much time with her physically for this to suddenly stop and be
replaced with virtual communication particularly during the uncertain time of the
pandemic, it was hard to adjust from physical face to face communication to virtual.

Through working with Nigel, my relationship has improved significantly, I am feeling
more relaxed and secure with my partner while we adapted to the stresses of long
distance and virtual communication. At first, it felt quite intimidating approaching this
with my partner but once I had fully opened up and communicated the challenges I
was facing she was very supportive and encouraged me to challenge myself and take
on more sessions with Nigel. I can not thank 4u2empower enough, I feel I am now a
better person for both myself and my girlfriend and if we are put in more long distance
situations in the future it will be easier to transition.
During one of my sessions with Nigel we tackled my previous relationship which had a
lot of impact on my nature and how I react to things in my current relationship. I had
constructed a defence reaction which would instantly make me think the situation is the
same connecting the issues I experienced with my previous relationship with my
current relationship. This felt frustrating as this isn’t my normal nature and character,
this caused me to feel very uncomfortable as I was re-imagining and taking myself back
to past situations that didn’t allow me a lot of freedom with my ex.
While working with Nigel, he enabled me to relive the emotions associated with this
past situation and allow my self to feel comfortable and at peace with it. We tackled a
few of these scenarios through an intense out of body experience which was truly an
incredible experience. Between sessions, I had tasks to look into and practice each
week which allowed me to embrace and implement these changes I was facing
mentally. I can now, as a result, look back at situations, view and just appreciate that
I’ve learnt from those experiences and that they are now over and in the past. I can not
put in to words how incredible this was for me and massively recommend to anyone.


James, Christchurch.

Reactions I did not like!

Before speaking to Nigel I found myself getting in an irritated and frustrated state quite
easily. I would then be frustrated at myself because I didn’t always acknowledge it or
realise until after and would question why it took me so long to calm down.

Whilst working with Nigel, I began to realise that I had complete power and control over how I
react to these situations. His technique and approach was so refreshing and
something I had not come across before.
Nigel’s techniques encouraged me to have an insight in to the behaviours of my body
when entering those states. This enabled me to be more aware of how my body reacts
when I enter these states.

Coming from hours to a day of frustration, down to a couple of minutes just with the power of my mind, was truly incredible. I still remember how surprised and relieved I was as this state was really frustrating and uncomfortable.
During our sessions, I felt completely relaxed after talking about a tough previous topic.
Throughout each session, I felt Nigel was completely on my side and guided me in an
understanding way of how I behaved.
I felt completely comfortable to open up as he created such a comfortable
environment. Each session we agreed upon a task to undertake during the week, to
challenge myself and become a better person. This was at first, challenging but
everything Nigel suggested was hugely helpful and taught me new ways of thinking. I
now have a much better opinion of myself, and the self-doubt and unrealistic
expectations that I experienced before have reduced, as a result of Nigel’s grounding
exercises this will hopefully be non existent in the future. My mind is clear, focused and
ready to take on the next challenge that life throws at me. I would use and recommend
to others 4u2empower.


Guy, Bournemouth,

Firstly, I must tell you of my fear of being eaten by great whites 100% successful….

When Nigel worked with me on my fear when swimming in my triathlons at his acupressure/eft workshop, I was one of the demonstrations for the group.

I have been waiting all summer for an opportunity to experiment and I swam much further out to sea than I have ever done before, interestingly, I was still very much aware feeling afraid but the fear didn’t affect me!

I was aware at the time how curious this sensation was, anyway mission accomplished after one session !

Many Thanks, Nigel

Steve, Christchurch.

I suffered from severe presentation anxiety impacting my ability to do my job, which is a constant pressure in my role. This was impacting my day to day life, and potential promotion opportunities.

After working with Nigel I had improved confidence in front of large audiences, and a marked reduction in the physiological responses that were caused by the anxiety i.e. shaking, sweating, inability to focus or talk articulately.

Nigel was very polite, welcoming and supportive. I believe he has a genuine desire for people to reach their full potential and he shows this in the way he interacts on a personal level.


C Moore, Christchurch. UK.

Focus & Attention on my game…..

Before I went to see Nigel I didn’t have the attention span to help my golf game.
When setting up shots, random things would come into my mind causing me to lose focus
and be less consistent.

After working with Nigel I can take more consideration with shots and be more
consistent over all my game

Thanks Nigel, I’ll be back!

Private Client, Ferndown Golf Club

Calming State of Mind….

My head was all over the place and I had trouble with controlling myself before working with Nigel.

While not perfect (yet) I am able to deal with the situation a lot quicker when there are problems like a bad shot, and ‘let it go’ and move on to the next without it affecting me.

It is also less noticeable to others. Many thanks Nigel

Connor, Dorset

Before meeting with Nigel at 4u2empower I really struggled over the past 2 years to make any enhancement to my game, this was due to the lack of recall of how I had played at that time.

When I had a round of golf, whether it was in competition or not,
everything was so muddled when I tried to remember the order of shots and how I had played them etc.

After working with Nigel my recall has improved 100%. So much so,
I can now recall so much in detail and learn from my game, what I did well and what to improve.
Thank you Nigel so much.

Private client, Hampshire

I’m happy to report, that it just keeps getting better. I now approach the tee with great confidence. What a change from the fear I had just a few weeks ago – never sure what was going to happen. The trigger points and routine we have worked on have now become second nature.

1. Trigger points
2. Stance
3. Grip
4. Club face
5. Head down
6. Swing
7. Follow through

Immediately my driving improved from about 50% OK to around 90%+ with increased distance.

Thanks Nigel

Private Client, Hampshire

I first met Nigel at a social function and I mentioned the frustration I was having with a short par 3 over a pond. “I can help you with that” said Nigel.

Nigel has a calming influence which made me believe that it might just work – but I needed proof. The remedy appeared simple – and so a few days later, when I arrived at the 3rd tee, I gave it a go – That proof came when I used his techniques to achieve outcomes I could have only dreamt of. The ball landed on the green a few feet from the pin.

I won’t say that it happens every time but there has been a vast improvement. Thanks Nigel I will see you again.

Alan Baker, Southampton

For some years I was happy with my golf … and then suddenly it changed, seemingly for no reason! I was slicing, hooking and not getting the ball in the air. After a few weeks this became a real mental barrier and I began to expect my drive to be ineffective. I was despairing about this when I met Nigel, a qualified Mind Coach.

Nigel went through a system of trigger points and partial hypnosis, and techniques I can use discreetly at the tee. I put Nigel’s techniques into practice in my next round. Unbelievably 6 out of 8 of my drives were straight, long and high (two were exceptionally long). I have played several times since our session together and the improvement is still there. I don’t really understand how it works – but it’s amazing! I confidently recommend you speak to Nigel.